Crazy flirt Monday, March 31, 2008 |
One of them is married and so is completely off limits; her one flirtatious remark on the day was extremely veiled and therefore open to interpretation, I've always thought she was really attractive, so it was nice for me, anyway.
The other one hit on me all day long; I'll just call her English Girl and let that suffice. So I had an e-mail from E.G. first thing this morning (this was company e-mail, mind you), saying how great it was hanging out with me this weekend (our company had a bowl-a-thon for charity). Her note essentially said that with all the problems she's had with her guy the past several months, it was nice to hang out with a fun, sexy, intelligent guy without any stress or pressure or whatever. Her words.
I was floored. This does not happen, people. Not only do women not flirt, they never, ever make statements that are even remotely committal, so using words like 'sexy' and 'attractive' (which she did in a separate e-mail later in the day) is unheard of.
Let me stop you right here and explain something. Our bowl-a-thon yesterday was at 9:30 a.m. On a Sunday morning, now. We were all dressed in things like jeans and t-shirts, so I was looking about as sexy as a No Parking sign. But apparently, something made these two take notice; of what, I know not. Hanging out with me outside of work prompted a response that today they decided they weren't in the mood to keep quiet.
So today, shortly after I replied with the requisite flattery and lovable disbelief, she sent another message out of the blue: "This is way out of line... but you have gorgeous eyes... I thought you'd want to know that."
OK, she's ramping it up a bit. And I thought, really? My eyes? My sleep-deprived eyes with dark circles? She loves 'em. En fuego, chingada.
There were more e-mails, more flattering messages, more things that seemed somewhat out of the blue to me but that I'm sure had been bubbling in her head for a while. Isn't that how it works? I replied once and said wow, I had no idea you thought so much of me, and her response? "Believe me, you do NOT want to know what I think of you." So there's some evidence that this has been going on for some time.
I'm trying to let myself enjoy the compliment. I have, actually, to a great extent. As always, there is that little, tiny voice in my head that knows E.G. feels really alone right now, that things with her guy are pretty much over, and that even her issues have issues. But I'm trying to allow myself the luxury of accepting the idea that her attraction to me would exist even without these things. Look, people: she came out and said that I am attractive. She used the "s" word, sexy. She broke out the word "gorgeous" to describe a physical attribute of mine; she did all these things without prompting, and without working her way up from "not ugly," as most people do. I don't care how lonely you are, you can't invent looks, and she thinks I'm hot. No ifs, ands, or buts. It's a rare moment, to be honest, and it feels pretty good.
There's just no accounting for taste, as the saying goes. That my biggest weakness can be seen as a strength is very nearly proof enough.
